Part 3 of “what do others think of me”
I have given you a few exercises to help you change your thinking and be more accepting of yourself and help you to be happier and healthier by seeing yourself in a new positive light… first you were to do your best to become more aware of the worry you put yourself under when you focus on what others think about you and how you compare yourself to others, you were then to forgive yourself for the stress and negativity and self-blame all around these thoughts and then for you to start seeing what your talents and go rtf are and how you can maybe put them to good use in helping others…I hope you have given these a go and found them useful.You would not be normal if these thoughts did not cross your mind from time to time, we can all experience them, however when it comes to the point of where they are really having a negative impact on your life and they prevent you from living your life to the full, then it is absolutely time to change this unsupportive way of thinking from wrecking your life!
A lot of the time the thinking patterns of “what will others think” can be something you have experienced from a very young age. Many people live their lives in a shallow un-meaningful way by working really hard to ‘keep up appearances’. What you need to understand is very simple, if you are not being true to yourself it puts immense stress, pressure, tension, strain on your mind and body and leads you into ill health. It restricts and undermines every part of your life. The good news is it does not have to be this way. Being true to yourself, looking after yourself, taking good care of yourself and living a real life are all possible.
Here are a few extra ways to begin increasing your self-image and being true to yourself
Become aware of how you speak to yourself, what do you say to yourself when you look yourself in the mirror? Start liking you for exactly who you are, as when you like yourself others will like you too and the fearful thoughts of what they think of you will slowly but surely subside. You need to start saying ‘yes I can, start giving things ago, when you complete something you did not think you could is an amazing way to increase your self-confidence…take things one step at a time and ask for help and support along the way. surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you and encourage you to be a better you. Smile more. Be kind to yourself.Be kind and compassionate towards others.
Your character is shaped by the people around you, your past conditioning, beliefs experiences etc but you can always change! You can start reshaping your character today by changing your attitude towards yourself and others, you can reshape your character by making new choices and taking action, be proud of yourself when you take those actions. Praise yourself and acknowledge yourself rather than putting yourself down. If you are always looking for validation, affirmation, encouragement and so on from others you will be disappointed. When this happens the vicious circle continues and you beat yourself up all over again. The pattern must change and this is where long term success occurs with my clients. Wishing you lots of health and happiness.