A huge number of people would say to me they have a big problem worrying over what others think of them, as the quote from Wayne Dwyer says “what other people think of me is none of my business” I know this can be easier said than done sometimes, however its core message holds a lot of truth and is certainly a place where it would be good to aspire to.
Let me ask you a few questions, can you remember when it began, or do you know who exactly you are worried about. Comparing ourselves to others usually goes hand in hand when we have low self-esteem or low self-confidence. Our self-worth and our identity and the way we see ourselves can be very dependent on the approval or reassurance of others. When you are in your head worrying yourself sick or are keeping yourself awake at night thinking about it, it really boils down to what you think about you. You may at first think or feel it is others, you may blame others, but when you think lowly of yourself or you dislike yourself, or you feel you don’t deserve X, or you feel you don’t look good in… then you automatically think this is how other people will think of you too. More often than not, the other people are completely unaware of how you feel or what you are really thinking. it is very important to realise how you see yourself will be entirely different as thaw someone else see you and the only thing you can control is HOW you think of yourself, how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself. A well known phrase from the bible is “love thy neighbour as thyself ”… if you are unloving towards yourself then you cannot be truly loving to others in the world around you, so how can you be happy and healthy?
The more negative energy you give to thinking about and worrying about what others think, the less positive energy you have left for you. So let’s begin right now on changing that. Of course reading one article on this most certainly is not going to change everything for you instantly, but my main goal of this article is to get you thinking about it in a different way by increasing your awareness of it. When you catch yourself worrying about what others think, make a conscious note of it or write it down and automatically say something nice or positive about you. Start by forgiving yourself for al your self-blame and self-criticism and being hard on yourself, it is time to start living and being yourself. It is time for you to put your gifts and talents to good use and maybe see how you can putting more focus into helping other less well of off to help you give something back and help you to really keep things in perspective. Comparing yourself to others and worry about what others think of you will get you nowhere but keep you stuck in fear, anxiety worry and unhappiness.see part 3 next week.